Hello, my name is Shane Bouel, I’m a qualified practitioner of hypnotherapy.
I’m also a Husband, Father, Son, Brother, Adoptee, Friend, Mentor, Creative and Human Rights Activist.
Thank you and welcome to hypnotix.com.au
I’m here to offer a unique perspective on trauma, acceptance and healing.
Throughout my life as an adoptee I’ve constantly wondered what my purpose is here. At first I had no clue. From a very young age I just knew I was out of place, not only as an adoptee, but also as a soul. I was in a very sheltered bubble, everything was provided for me, and for that I am grateful.
Later in life started to see cracks in my perceived reality, first I was forbidden to talk about my adoption, on my 16th Birthday I was forced to sign a no contact “veto” that would have prevented my Birth Mother contacting me if she was searching.
At 19 I had visions of what my Birth Mother would look like. I started to question my reality and saw that there were massive black holes. Coinsidently that was the year Queendland Australia, allowed access to previously locked adoption records.
At 26 I applied for my original Birth Certificate.
I did everything to please my adoptive family, felt I had too, but it all seemed extremely one sided, yes financially they were there for me, but emotionally I just didn’t see it. Perhaps the thing that was stopping me connecting with them was the very first trauma I ever experienced, The Primal Wound of being separated from my Birth Mother. Pehaps my adoptive parents had their own issues which prevented them from acknowledging the trauma I suffered, or perhaps and most likely it was both.
Before you reject my hypothesis, be sure to check your Moral Nihilism, I have no interest in your Social Darwinism. There is plenty of proof supporting this from the scientific community.
At the age of 44, I finally reunited with my Birth Mother. This was when I realised my earlier visions of her were remarkably accurate, they were practically identical.
After reunion I applied for my full adoption records and the penny dropped, I realised that the my adoptive Birth Certificate stated that my adoptive parents gave birth to me and my original Birth Certificate was cancelled, the identity I was born with was the Birth Certificate I was born with was stolen from me, as if it didn’t matter. Seconds after being born I was separated from my Mother, I sat in the hospital for 3 weeks till I was adopted. There is one particular page with in these documents that states that my identity was officially changed after 4 weeks and 4 days. I have questions… Did my adoptive family know my previous identity?
I know what you’re thinking.. but you were just a baby, there is no way you could have remembered anything.
Sadly I admit you are right, the infant brain does not remember trauma, but the body and brain chemistry certainly does.
Developmental trauma occurs between the moment of conception, and before the onset of conscious verbal thought at age two or three. That’s actually a very long time for a fetus and an infant. And, it’s pre-cognitive, pre-verbal, and can’t be recalled. Yet it floods the in utero brain and body with stress chemicals and at birth, stress on baby and mother makes attachment difficult or impossible. Traumatic dysregulation of cells harms development of the brain, nervous system, and body itself — from scratch.
I was separated at birth from my mother and adopted at 3 weeks. When I turned 2 my adoptive-mother gave birth to twin girls.
My adoptive parents believed that adoptees were “blank slates” and that I would/should “fit in”.
I wasn’t and I didn’t. My personality and emotions are SO much like my birth mothers, and nothing like my adoptive family. When I wouldn’t conform, I was ridiculed, punished and ostracised. Despite my twin sister’s going to school every day and coming home every afternoon, I was sent to boarding school 5 minutes from home as a border ostensibly “to toughen me up”. At 16 years old I was forced to sign a veto document stopping my birth mother from contacting me.
In 2012 my son was diagnosed and treated for brain cancer, my ex wife had an affair and my marriage crumbled. My a-parents still blame us for both.
In April 2016 I found my birth mother with the help of JigSaw Queensland, and we finally reunited on 3rd May 2016. We have been in constant daily communication ever since.
By default adoptees face significant disadvantages throughout life.
Our bodies hold on to past traumas which are reflected in our body language, posture and also expressions. Past traumas manifest physical symptoms like pain, digestive issues, hormonal imbalances, immune system dysfunction, medical issues, depression, anxiety and addiction.
The preponderance of Moral Nihilistic Belief in science and in society has generalized thought forms that are used to promote & spread Cancel Culture in humanity. This is really just giving people an excuse for really negative behaviours to not be accountable or responsible to the consequences and to not feel remorse or Empathy for other people.
Moral Nihilism combined with the Cancel Culture is quite effective at mass producing, marketing and amplifying an array of negative propaganda forces generating pain, suffering and torture of humanity. It is a social political tool used to cultivate human suffering and convert the energy it generates — this is monetizing human pain. To be able to see it I know it’s difficult but we need to look at it and see it so that we try to not feed it.
Ironiaclly “Pro Adoption” is up there with “Pro Life” & “Anti Abortion”
I believe that a blaket statement of support can not be cast over these issues as a group or individually. Why? Because society just has absolutly no clue or has any willingness to listen to adoptees.
That said, I’ve faced my trauma head on.
I’ve walked the dark road.
To heal these schisms and rehabilitate our DNA, we are required to learn about the Law of One and practice the Law of One principles, to finally heal and embody the integrated spiritual identity. Once we are proficient and are accepting of this as the truth as the nature of reality, these genetic and emotional blockages are able to be removed and resolved. However in the haze of adoption and its related traumas, this an immense, almost impossible task. But it is possible if we are shown the right level of support, awareness and acceptance from those around us and the wider international population.
As adoptees start to recover and face their darknight of the soul, they may develop skills in “Multidimensionality”. We start to expand our consciousness, and have a better understanding of our own multidimensional and energy, and the energies around us, we begin to perceive the larger energies in the collective consciousness that we connect with. Regardless, adoptees are experts in looking for something that isn’t there. So you shouldn’t be surprised if an adoptee finds something that nobody else can see, and when they do it’s usually something of immense concern with catastrophic ramifications. In other words, don’t bullshit us! We can see straight through you.
It is my hope that the demand for this support structure will be acknowledged and further developed through a unification of the adoptive, esoteric and scientific community.